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If you take a quick glance at my Medium profile, my inconsistent posting and low volume of published articles may have you thinking that I’m not a serious writer. The truth is, I’ve just been too busy hustling on other writing projects to give Medium a serious go.

While my personal writing career isn’t so lucrative, I’ve been able to make a part-time income from ghostwriting and content writing for clients across many niches. I’ve written over a thousand articles for a couple hundred clients while gaining the two most valuable things a writer needs: money and experience.

The best…

He violated two girls and got away with it, but that’s not even the worst part.

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I remember the first time he hugged me a little too long, his greedy hands touching the small of my back, his head resting atop mine. I instantly hated it.

My body seized up. I just wanted to run away and hide from him. But I didn’t want to seem “mean.” So I held my breath and closed my eyes until I could “politely” break away from this unwanted interaction.

This happened two more times before the incident.

I knew this guy was bad news. We were at the same party again but I paid him no mind. …

Say less and learn more.

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The world is noisy. It seems like there’s someone around every corner trying to get your attention, force their opinion down your throat, or get you to buy something. Social media feeds have become an equal-parts mixture of misinformation, advertisements, and “look how great my life is” posts.

On October 1st of this year, I deleted Facebook and Instagram. I cut way back on posting and sharing content since 2018, but two months ago, I felt a strong pull to leave these platforms for good.

Maybe it was my dismal screen time stats that made me do it. Or the…

Your answer predicts the outcome of your next romantic endeavor.

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Our motives directly affect our actions, and when we look at our motivations for finding love, they are often selfish. This doesn’t make our reasons for wanting a relationship bad or wrong. After all, humans are wired to put their own needs and desires above those of others. But it’s important to make sure your heart is in the right place before pursuing love so you can make the most out of your next partnership.

Common Motivations for Getting into a Relationship

Some of the most common reasons for wanting…

Change starts with you.

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Kindness is one of the most important ingredients in a healthy relationship, yet our partners often get the brunt of our bad moods and judgments. While authenticity and vulnerability are important, our relationships can suffer if we treat our partners like punching bags.

When I look back on my past relationships, I can see how I pushed my partners away by treating them with less kindness, compassion, and respect than they deserved. I projected my frustrations and insecurities onto them and made problem-solving impossible.

What Hurts Relationships the Most

The Gottman Institute developed“The Four Horsemen,” a set of major warning…

Ask not what your partner can do for you — ask what you can do for your partner.

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When President John F. Kennedy delivered his famous line “ask not what your country can do for you — ask what you can do for your country,” everyone in the United States was called to extend their hand not in asking, but in giving.

Many people enter relationships to receive. They expect their partner to make them happy, to support them, to take them out on extravagant dates, to fill the aching hole in their heart. We cast aside the idea that our partners are only human with their own needs and desires.

When we go into a relationship with…

It’s not you, it’s the timing.

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Relationship advice has become one of the internet’s hottest commodities, and a lot of the relationship content out there was written for singles.

When you’re having trouble finding love, it can be tempting to devour article after article, waste hours each day swiping on dating apps, or turn to your coupled friends for advice on finding “The One.”

Recently, I was giving advice to my single friend. He asked me a barrage of questions about what he should change. He wondered why so many women had ghosted him? Why was he doomed to suffer in this singleness?

In a moment…

Little habits can create big changes.

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Life can be challenging and overwhelming sometimes, but the good news is, we have more power to reduce stress in our lives than we realize. Many people are wishing they had a reset button for their lives right now, but you don’t have to make drastic changes to have a more peaceful, happy existence. Here are a few tips and tricks I’ve discovered that have made my life a lot easier to navigate.

  1. Carry a Snack and Water Everywhere

I get a headache if I’m not able to eat when I’m hungry. Anytime I’m out, I always have a granola…

Change How You React

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Disclaimer: Some people are stuck in truly terrible situations and in those cases, most of the advice in this article isn’t valid or applicable. This advice is for the average Joe/Jane like me who wants to mitigate drama and experience a greater sense of peace and control in their personal lives.

Learning how to control your reactions can reduce stress and give you more control over your life. Many people overreact to everything little thing that goes wrong. …

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You don’t have to wait until January to improve.

I’m guilty of it, and you probably are too. Waiting for the “right” time to start working on a new goal or make lifestyle changes is a surefire way to get nothing accomplished, but we all do it.

Many of us spent the latter half of 2019 looking forward to the Big 2020, but the pandemic came as a shock to everyone and derailed our resolutions and grand plans for the New Year.

Fortunately, you don’t have to wait until next year to refresh, set goals, and level up in life. …

K.C. Lovett

Wisdom for powerful relationships and peaceful living.

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